How to Know What You REALLY Want

Everyone says the empty nest is “your time.” But when someone actually asks you what you want — you go blank. Or something comes out that sounds right but feels hollow. Like you're reading off a list that belongs to someone else.

That's not a you problem. That's a question problem. Because most of us have spent 20 years getting really good at answering “what do the kids need?” — and never practiced answering this one.

In this episode, I'm sharing a simple tool that cuts straight through the surface answer to the real one. The one underneath. The one that actually changes things.

Here's what we cover:

Why “what do you want?” sounds easy but is one of the hardest questions to answer well — and why that matters so much in the empty nest season.

What King Solomon knew about desire and clarity that most of us skip right past — and how his answer in 1 Kings 3 is one of the best examples of getting to the root of what you really want.

The Five Whys tool from Mel Robbins that I now use with my own clients — and why it works when nothing else does.

A live guided exercise where I walk you through the whole thing so you can find YOUR real answer right now, while you're listening.

This episode is for you if you're in the empty nest transition and you're tired of feeling like you're wandering. If you want to wake up with a reason. If you're ready to stop chasing the surface answer and start building toward the real one.

Because here's the truth: a lot of women want to make real change in this season. But only 1% actually do. The difference isn't ability or time or circumstance. It's whether you stopped long enough to ask the real question — and then had the courage to go after the answer.

Grab something to write with. You're going to want it for this one.

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📞 READY TO STOP CIRCLING AND ACTUALLY START? You've been thinking about this long enough. On a free Next Chapter Jumpstart Call, we'll identify one place the empty nest has you feeling lost and give you one small shift you can start today to create your next chapter. Not someday. Now.👉 marianneiverson.com/call